Personal Boundaries Are The Key To Staying Abstinent
Personal Boundaries help to define who a person is. If you are trying to decide if someone you know is an active untreated sex, love, romance addict or co-sex addict just observe their behavior concerning their personal boundaries. If it appears that they lack personal boundaries for self protection or they do not seem to have boundaries in place concerning what they themselves are allowed to do or not do that could harm them or others they are more than likely past life trauma victims that could very well also have problems with sex, love, romance addiction or co-sex addiction. However, in the end only they could know if they have the problem or not & even if they do there is nothing anyone could ever do about that but them anyway. All you can do is get away from them & stay away to protect your own peace of mind & sanity.
Most people equate boundaries with what they will or will not allow other people to do or say around them. They set boundaries as to what behaviors of other people are or are not acceptable to them period.
Personal boundaries are very important to recovering sex, love, romance addicts & co-sex addicts as they help them to stay abstinent.
Personal boundaries for them are more about what they will allow themselves to do or not do.
Personal boundaries of this nature are loving & caring towards self & vitally important to the recovery process.
Writing down personal boundaries helps to crystallize them in your mind & make them real.
Recovering addicts would be wise to type them out & carry them with them wherever they go & read them over & over again.
If a recovering sex, love or romance addict knows what triggers him or her a personal boundary needs to be put in place that says he or she is not allowed to cross over the line & involve themselves with anything that triggers their addiction(s). If H.A.L.T. Triggers them they must not allow themselves to become hungry, angry, lonely or tired. If unstructured time or being alone triggers them they must set personal boundaries that says they will not allow themselves to have unstructured time or allow themselves to be alone. If pornography triggers them they need to set a personal boundary for themselves that says they will not allow themselves to view pornography. If a certain person triggers their addiction to sex, love, romance or their co-sex addiction they need to set a personal boundary for themselves that says they will not allow themselves any type or kind of personal contact with that particular person.
This could go on forever but the point is really clear.
Personal boundaries are vitally important to recovering sex, love, romance addicts & co-sex addicts.
The number one problem that active untreated sex, love, romance addicts & co-sex addicts really have is they do not have good personal boundaries in place concerning their own personal compulsive addictive behaviors which causes them to suffer painful life damaging consequences over & over again.