| Sexually Addicted People Do Not Need Pornography |
- The General Public knows as much about sexual addiction as they know about specialized brain surgery.
People in the media business always come across as mis-informed when it comes to addictions of any type or
kind. Movies about sex addicts are for the most part not the most accurate Portrayals. When a recovering
sex addict talks about or describes sexual addiction you get it from the horse's mouth. No one would want
advice on brain surgery from a person who is not a brain surgeon & the same goes with sexual addiction.
- Many websites refer to pornography addiction when in fact in my opinion for what it is worth there is no such
thing as addiction to pornography.
- The person obsessed with viewing pornography all the time & can not stop or quit doing that permanently
under their own their own willpower no matter how hard they try or resolve to themselves or others to finally
stop or quit forever is in my opinion a sex addict & pornography is one of their bottom line behaviors.
Note that I said one of the addicts bottom line behaviors. Pornography addict sounds a lot better than sex
addict. Love addict sounds better than sex addict. Romance addict sounds better than sex addict.
Codependent sounds better than co-sex addict. Problem is all of these personal problems are really about
people who experience emotional pain or other life damaging consequences because of the dysfunctional
ways they manage or engage in their sex life, love life or romantic relationships. They are all more than likely
but not always past life trauma victims that lack the capacity to be in a normal healthy mutually committed
monogamous relationship with another person because of that fact.
The codependents of sex addicts or co-sex addicts are attracted to sex addicts or attract sex addicts which is
anything but normal behavior as no human being has the ability to be in or stay in a relationship with an active
untreated sex addict & maintain peace of mind & serenity on anything like a consistent basis.
All of these problems are about sex or sexual addiction in one way or another. Pornography is just a small part
of it. It is possible for someone to be a sex addict that has never ever viewed pornography or even nudity.
Many sex addicts have never had sex with another human being in their entire lives. Some sexually addicted
people avoid sex altogether & simply do not have sex with other people period. Sexual addiction has nothing
to do with sex which really confuses the non-addicted people.
Sex addicts do not need pornography & pornography does not cause sexual addiction period. However, if a
person who is destined to become a sexually addicted person views porn at an early age they could develop
a bottom lone behavior called use of pornography in any form for acting out purposes.
Dr. Patrick Carnes makes it real clear that sexual addiction begins in a person long before they are even born
so how could pornography be the culprit? People who are yet to be born can not view pornography.
- Some sexually addicted people will get up in their heads & fantasize about having sex with someone they find
attractive or they will get up in their heads & bring back memories of past sexual acting out episodes.
This is called euphoric recall. Since this type of sexual behavior can not be seen or spotted by others it is a
safe way for sexually addicted people to act out sexually in secret without getting caught or found out by
other people. Some sex addicts will masturbate while engaging in fantasy or euphoric recall.
- A sex addict can be blind folded, have his hands handcuffed behind his back and then be put into a small
totally dark room with no windows or lighting & he will be able to mood alter himself by acting out sexually
in his head by utilizing fantasy & euphoric recall. That is the truth. Many sex addicts do this very thing almost
24/7 wherever they are or go. Even at work or school. The General Public is numb to that fact.
- Sex addicts have ways of mood altering themselves when it is not possible for them to view pornography
or masturbate. Fantasy & euphoric recall are two of them. Many recovering sex addicts find it more difficult to
stop engaging in fantasy & euphoric recall than it was for them to stop viewing pornography or having sex with
other people. Romantic intrigue is a very powerful mood alterer for many sex addicts & since it goes on in
their heads no one knows they are acting out with it including themselves at certain times when they go into
their trance. Many sex addicts are always looking at or watching females they are attracted to wherever they
are or go & get up in their heads & fantasize what it would be like to have sex with them.
They call this behavior rubber necking or simply looking or watching & for some it is a bottom line behavior.
Their relationship partners are quick to pickup on this type of behavior & rest assured they do not like it.
Addicts with these types of bottom line behaviors will find themselves going to public places like beaches &
shopping centers just to look & watch attractive females. They do this because they know attractive females
may be there & an opportunity for fantasy.
- Pornography is just one of the many things sexually addicted people use for acting out purposes.
Rest assured they have ways to mood alter themselves without it.
- Remember that if you think a sexually addicted person in your life is doing okay because he or she
stopped viewing pornography. He or she could be engaging in many other things you do not know about.
If you want to help that person fully recover from sexual addiction talk to them about fantasy, euphoric recall
romantic intrigue, looking or watching, platonic affairs. Let them know that you know sexually addicted people
have been known to engage in obsessive behaviors of this type. Ask them to come clean & tell on themselves
when they catch themselves engaging in behaviors of this type. Stress brutal honesty to the extreme. That will
help them & you better understand just how serious & difficult sexual addiction really is.
All human beings will stay as sick as their secrets. If you are a recovering sex addict & you engage in fantasy,
euphoric recall, romantic intrigue or platonic affairs which act out with seduction & ritual but not the sex act you
are acting out sexually which means you are not exactly practicing total abstinence. Bottom line behaviors of
this type will take you down a path that will only lead to places you really do not need to go. Not if you desire
full recovery from sexual addiction. Don't keep secrets! Always tell on yourself. That is what meetings are for.
Always remember that sexually addicted people can often say no to acting out when triggered & at other times
they can not which is one of the reasons addiction has been best described as ' Cunning, baffling & powerful '.
- If you do not believe anything we say check this writing out by The Meadows the top treatment center in
America for sexual addiction.
- Anonymous, Recovering sex, love, romance addict & co-sex addict, childhood trauma & abuse victim.
- Take what you like & leave the rest.
