| Sexual Addiction Definition |
- One very important aspect of sexual addiction is called a failure to bond. Examples Of Failure To Bond
There is no intimacy in sex, love, romance addiction or co-sex addiction whatsoever which clearly indicates
a failure to bond is a clear signpost of sex, love, romance addiction & co-sex addiction.
- True intimacy requires brutal honesty on the part of both partners in a normal healthy mutually committed
romantic relationship. Anyone who suffers from sex, love, romance addiction or co-sex addiction who is now
in recovery will tell you in their past lives they were never always honest with their relationship partners &
held many secrets from them. They did not always express what they wanted or needed but would get upset
when they did not receive what they wanted or needed from relationship partners & used that as an excuse
to justify their compulsive addictive acting out behaviors.
The failure to bond on the part of either partner has to do with early childhood experiences between the child &
parent called ' The Sins Of The Fathers ' and/or ' Family Secrets ' which clearly indicates that sex, love,
romance addiction or co-sex addiction are family problems. Both partners are in it together whether they know
that or not in the beginning of the recovery process. Problem is the partner who was traumatized by the addicts
acting out behavior carries extreme anger & anxiety which prevents them from getting a clear picture of what
was really going on in the relationship from the day the couple first met. When human beings become
traumatized they will obsess over the trauma which is only natural. It usually takes them a very long time
to overcome the aftereffects of any type of trauma. Professional help is advised.
- Sex, love, romance addiction or co-sex addiction always includes a contradiction.
- The man or woman who comes across as a God fearing Christian on one hand & acts out sexually in
any way in secret behind closed doors on the other hand is an example of a contradiction.
The husband who says he loves his wife & children more than anything else in the world & then secretly
views pornography on the inter-net is yet another example of a contradiction.
- Sex, love, romance addiction & co-sex addiction are very serious life damaging illnesses that always
leave a trail of destruction behind them. An example would be a man or woman who has experienced
many multiple toxic romantic relationships in the past that have all ended in failure & resulted in loss.
No human being can be in a relationship with an active untreated sex, love, romance or co-sex addict
& come out of it smelling good. That just is not possible. The trail of destruction is a clear signpost
of sex, love, romance addiction or co-sex addiction.
- Relationship or love life problems produce emotional pain which clearly indicates something is wrong.
- Sex, love, romance addiction & co-sex addiction are entirely capable of making something wrong
with a romantic relationship of any type or kind so it is something to suspect & look at.
- Sex, love, romance addiction & co-sex addiction are so powerful that most people afflicted do not
come out of denial & delusion until something really bad happens to them. The husband or wife gets
caught cheating & fears losing everything through a painful divorce is an example. The husband who
gets caught acting out with pornography & the wife or girlfriend threatens to leave him. The worst
case scenario is when a police officer handcuffs the person & reads them their rights.
- If there is something wrong in a romantic relationship sex, love, romance addiction or co-sex addiction
is something to suspect & take a look at.
- Sex, love, romance addicts & co-sex addicts have in essence made a bargain with chaos.
- The good news is after they have been in recovery for three to five years they could teach normal
couples a lot about what a normal healthy mutually committed romantic relationship looks & feels like.
- Recovering people know what true love is, how to give & receive it.
Their Higher Powers gift to them.
Nothing on earth is more valuable or rewarding.
Money can not buy it.
They are teaching the world what good relationships look like & they came from the bottom of the heap?
The bi-product of great human suffering?
God works in strange ways!
- Anonymous, recovering sex, love, romance addict & co-sex addict victim of childhood trauma & abuse.
