| The Safe Formula |
Definition: One with a dual personality that is alternately good & evil. Sexually addicted people experience what is called an “addictive personality shift” when they go into their trance ( illness ) & it seems like there are two different people inside of them. Their real self who tries to live up to values & cares about other people & another person ( sex addict ) whose values & relationships are sacrificed to the addiction. This Jekyll & Hyde experience is very common in sexual addiction. A recovering sex addict must be able to recognize this personality shift when they start to go into their trance & become the other person. This will help them detach from their addicts power. |
| The Safe Formula |
On page 158 in a book called Out Of The Shadows by Dr. Patrick Carnes which is generally regarded as the bible on sexual addiction & the kind of dysfunctional relationships sexually addicted people experience. This book is an absolute must read for people in recovery for sexual addiction or co-sexual addiction. The Safe Formula is a tool that sexually addicted people can use to determine whether or not a specific sexual or relationship behavior is compulsive or addictive: 1. ( S) It is a Secret. Anything that cannot pass public scrutiny will create the shame of a double life. 2. ( A) It is Abusive to self or others. Anything that is exploitive or harmful to others or degrades oneself will activate the addictive system. 3. ( F) It is used to avoid or is a source of painful Feelings. If sexuality is used to alter moods or results in painful mood shifts, it is clearly part of the addictive process. 4. ( E) It is Empty of a caring, committed relationship. Fundamental to the whole concept of addiction and recovery is the healthy dimension of human relationships. Sexually addicted & co-sexually addicted people are taking great risk by being sexual outside of a loving & caring committed monogamous relationship. Some of the consequences of such an action ( promiscuity ) could include: Chlamydia, Genital Herpes, Genital Warts, HPV, Gonorrhea, Hepatitis B, Syphilis, Trichomoniasis, HIV or Full Blown Aids, Divorce, Get fired & lose income, get arrested & labeled a sex offender or loss of life. |
Jekyll-Hyde
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