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Recovering sex, love or romance addicts must self identify their very own compulsive addictive bottom line behaviors.
Bottom line sexual acting out behaviors are the specific ways a sex, love, romance or co-sex addict acts out.
They do this when triggered to lesson their pain or augment their pleasure.
Triggers: Certain people, images, objects, places, thoughts, feelings, situations, activities or things that cause sex,
love & romance addicts to unconsciously-semi consciously go into a trance like state of being & begin to act out in
their addiction utilizing their very own preferred personal bottom line behaviors. Some addicts consider being alone
with a computer or smart phone, unstructured time, isolation or H.A.L.T. Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired triggers.
Trigger recognition & avoidance at any & all cost is vitally important in the beginning of the recovery process.
General Bottom Line Behaviors:
Addictive Sex With Spouse Or Others
Cruising For Sex, Love Or Romance
Smooth or sweet talking, hustling, conning, scanning,
coercing, manipulating, lying, exaggerating,
purposely withholding negative personal information,
dishonesty, objectifying self & others, depersonalization,
deception, giving a pitch, using people for acting out
purposes to feed sex, love or romance addiction.
Dressing To Attract Sexual Attention
Or dressing conservatively as a cover-up
Re-calling past sexual acting out episodes.
Often accompanied by fantasy & masturbation
Signpost of past life sexual abuse
Many addicts get mood altered by flirting obsessively
Giving My Power Away To What I See In A Face Or Body
Lusting & Wanted To Be Lusted After
Habitual or compulsive with or without pornography ( sex with self )
Objectification Of Self Or Others ( Depersonalization )
Acts out with seduction & ritual but not the sex act. Addict gets mood altered just knowing he
or she could if they wanted to. Kept a secret from relationship partners or others.
Signpost of past life sexual abuse & source of guilt & shame.
Pornography Pornography Addiction XXX Porn Nude Naked Adult Sex In Any Form
used for Acting Out purposes with or without
habitual or compulsive masturbation or fantasy Cybersex Mobile Porn
Preoccupation And/Or Obsession With Sex/ Love/ Romance/Romantic Intrigue Prostitutes
Re-Enactment Episodes ( repetition compulsion )
Unconsciously re-enacting past life sexual abuse events out on
to self or others without even being aware of it ( The Split )
Common among sexual abuse, rape, molestation or incest victims
Professional counseling & therapy strongly advised ( very serious )
Rituals Involving Sexual Or Romantic Acting Out Behaviors
Secret Double Life
Sexual addiction is at it's worst when addicts no longer
try to hide or cover-up their addictions or when some
addicts actually flaunt or advertise their addiction
to sex, love or romance
Seduction Sexting Strippers & Strip Clubs Stalking Singles Events
Sexual Fetishism Sexual Anorexia Or Avoidance
Sexual Objectification Sex Industry Worker
Sex Outside Of A Committed Relationship
Inappropriate Sexual Innuendos/Comments
Unsafe Or Unprotected Sex
Looking at, staring at, observing or watching people you are attracted to whether they are clothed or not.
Staring at pornography on a computer screen is a form of Voyeurism & so is channel flipping TV for sexual content.
Trying to see something you are not supposed to see by purposely looking down women's blouses or up their skirts
with or without use of photography or video cameras or other creative spying devices such as mirrors.
Secretly watching or observing other people with or without use of binoculars or telescopes ( Window Peeping ).
Secretly photographing or video taping people undressing or having sex in your own home or other places.
deception, justification & entitlement often run with sex, love & romance addiction or co-sex addiction.
Many recovering sex addicts also consider these types of character defects or short comings bottom line behavior.
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Sex, love, romance addiction & co-sex addiction have the power to destroy & take human lives.
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|Bottom Line Sexual Acting Out Behaviors
Sex, Love & Romance Addiction
Sex, Love & Romance Addiction causes
unfortunate Human Beings
to suffer from impaired thinking to the extreme:
|Addiction is the only illness
that tells that you don't have it.
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They use first names only.
No one outside of the meeting will ever know you were there or what you shared.
They are a safe place to begin recovery for sex, love, romance or co-sex addiction.
|What All Active Untreated Sex, Love, Romance & Co-Sex Addicts Are Really Doing Is Losing Their Lives!
Sex, Love, Romance Addiction & Co-Sex Addiction Always Leaves A Trail Of Destruction Behind it.
Warning for all of the very unfortunate people in the Dayton, Ohio area that suffer from sex, love, romance or co-sex addiction
|Addiction is the only illness that tells you that you do not have it. Sex addiction is very powerful.
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Causes Of Sexual Addiction Video
Signs & Symptoms Of Sexual Addiction Video
on the information on this website or included in any of the videos above we urge you to reach out for help
by making an appointment with a counselor or therapist that specializes in diagnosing & treating sex, love, romance &
co-sex addiction in men & women.
that deal with sex, love, romance or co-sex addiction to get started learning all about sex addiction, how it works
& what has to be done to get out of it. Sex Addiction is treatable & many addicts have been able to overcome it.
to lose the power that it has over them. Recovery efforts must continue for many years to come or the addiction
may return right where it left off. That is just how powerful sex, love, romance or co-sex addiction really is.
|All Sex, Love or Romance Addicts must stop Acting Out in their
Bottom Line Behavior to become Abstinent & achieve Recovery
|Do you give your power away to what you see in a face or body?
Is that behavior on your part causing you to suffer painful feelings?
Guilt? Shame? Anxiety? Hopelessness? Anger? Resentment? Confusion? Frustration?