Love & Romance Addiction


    Love & Romance Addiction just sounds so sweet & nice:

    In reality a lot of Recovering Sex, Love & Romance Addicts afflicted with multiple S Addictions
    feel that Love & or Romance Addiction could very well be the worst addictions of them all.


    What hooked means is they can not leave them or stop their mental obsession over or for them
    no matter how hard they try or how many different times they resolve to themselves or others to finally do so.

    It also prevents people from being able to make healthy relationship choices for themselves up-front.

    With the  Love Addict  it is usually Love At First Sight.

    Some Love Addicts & Romance Addicts often times feel like they are in Love with a person
    they have never even been romantically involved with or even know very well personally
    which is called a Compulsive Addictive Mental Obsession in the form of Love Or Romance Addiction.

    Love Addiction is also in our opinion a major cause of murder suicide or personal suicide throughout the world.

    You read & hear about it regularly in the media when one relationship partner would rather die
    than live without the other person which is clearly a sign they were obviously hooked or addicted.

    You will never see Love Addiction listed on the death certificates as the probable cause of death
    simply because society is just not that far along in understanding Sex, Love or Romance Addiction
    or how it works to destroy people & their lives simply because it takes one to know one & very few are aware.

    People will ask Love Addicts why would you stay with someone who treats you like that?
    The concerned person not knowing or being aware the very unfortunate Love Addict has an Addiction
    of which they are virtually powerless over just like any other compulsive addictive behavior
    such as alcoholism, substance abuse, compulsive addictive gambling or compulsive addictive over-eating.

    If you are new to Recovery for Sex Addiction you really do not have to worry to much about
    Love Addiction in the beginning of the recovery process simply because most recovering sex addicts
    will not come to the realization that they also have a problem with Love Addiction
    until someone they have been in a long term relationship with finally decides to abandon them forever.

    If & when that happens it will come out in the wash in the form of excruciating & debilitating withdraw pain
    which in it's self is often proof the relationship was an Addictive Dependency Relationship to begin with
    & they were addicted to their partner & the relationship but did not know that due to their denial & delusion.

    The fear of abandonment is what keeps the Love Addicts hooked into certain people who trigger them.

    Therefore when abandoned for real it is a Kin To Death for them.

    The emotionally painful abandonment feelings, the constant physical agony, endless mental suffering
    & sleepless nights & E-Woo-G-B's will not end or go away in a short period of time.

    The severe emotional & physical withdraw pain may even last for up to three years or more in many cases.

    The withdraw pain of abandonment or the fear of possibly being abandoned is often the reason
    why many Newcomers to Sexual Addiction Recovery finally decided to go to see a counselor or therapist
    or visit a 12 Step Recovery Group for Sex, Love Or Romance Addiction ( No Pain No Gain ).

    One question Newcomers often ask is what is the difference between Sex, Love Or Romance Addiction?

    It has been said Somewhere if an active untreated Sexually Addicted Person is in a romantic relationship
    that particular relationship will more than likely be compulsive or addictive.

    Most Love Or Romance Addicts as far as we think we know are more than likely also Sexually Addicted.

    What this would suggest is that many or most Love Addicts or Romance Addicts are also Sex Addicts
    whether they are aware of that or not.

    Therefore they could be best described as Sex Addicts who also have problems with
    Compulsive Addictive Dependency Relationships in the form of either Love Addiction Or Romance Addiction.

    The time honored saying goes like this:

    The Sex Addict Comes On, The Love Addict Hangs On & The Romance Addict Always Moves On.

    The Love Addict suffers excruciating & debilitating abandonment pain when abandoned.

    The Romance Addict on the other hand suffers none when they finally decide to ride off into the sunset
    & leave their latest romantic relationship partner.

    This usually takes place shortly after the initial romantic hit or jolt starts to wear off or begins to fade away.

    The Romance Addict is always after the initial excitement & the newness of it.

    When the initial excitement & the newness of the Compulsive Addictive Dependency Relationship
    no longer floats their boat they simply make themselves gone & usually forever.

    Then they start to cruise again always looking for a new & more exciting relationship partner
    almost everywhere they are or go including Churches & 12 Step Recovery Program Meetings.

    It is possible to be in Recovery for Sexual Addiction but not be aware that you also have other addictions
    such as Love Addiction, Romance Addiction or Co-Sex Addiction ( Codependency Issues ) ( Ask Me About It? )

    Some of us actually call ourselves Sex, Love, Romance & Co-Sex Addicts & Sexual Anorexics
    all in one package simply because that is our truth & brutal honesty is the only thing that has any
    resemblance of power over any & all of our personal problems
    ( if you can not see it in yourself or acknowledge it you can not fix it).

    A lot of Love Addicts will run out & start cruising around singles organizations, dances & events, churches,
    12 step meetings or the inter-net to try & find yet another new person to replace the relationship partner
    who recently left them in a desperate attempt to end the miserable withdraw pain of abandonment.

    If this New Person or Love Relationship takes away their abandonment pain almost but immediately.

    Love Addiction, unfortunately, may be in the cards for them.

    Each recovering person may call themselves whatever they choose.

    No other recovering person, counselor or therapist has the right to tell them what to call themselves.

    If calling yourself a Love Addict Or Romance Addict sounds better to you than Sex Addict go for it.

    You could be right as only you can really know yourself or do anything about your personal problems anyway.

    Some Sexual Anorexics ( Acts In Instead Of Out ) call themselves Sex Addicts & they don't act out sexually.

    The new term for Sexual Anorexia is now being referred to as Sexual Avoidance Addiction ( Avoidance Addicts ).

    Each recovering individual must self identify their very own Bottom Line Behaviors & Addictions period.

    No other human being on earth has the personal power or ability to do that for them.

    Not with any consistent accuracy.

    Not even professional counselors or therapist who specialize in diagnosing & treating sexual addiction.

    That is why it has been said many times by Recovering Alcoholics or Drug Addicts
    who also suffer from Sex, Love or Romance Addiction that these types of addictions
    are without question the most powerful ones of all & the most difficult to overcome.

    If you feel Love Or Romance Addiction could be a problem for you
    we suggest you attend at least six  SLAA Meetings  in your area.

    You will soon discover that you are not alone.

    Listening to & getting help from others who are in Recovery for Love or Romance Addiction
    is the only known way out of it & even then the road to total abstinence is difficult to say the very least.
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